I’ve been in a serious relationship with my guy for a bit now, and while we’ve already mutually agreed that we are going to get married, he has not proposed. Normally, the woman would get impatient or irritated, but this was another thing that the two of us agreed on. If a formal proposal is made, it will be by me.
The reasoning is simple: I’ve had two failed marriages, and he’s had one. In both cases, I was the one being proposed to, and for his, he did the proposing. But nothing about OUR relationship has ever really been ‘traditional’. We’ve done everything backwards, or inside-out and we agreed that this would be a trend that we keep because it’s worked for us. In fact, it’s worked VERY well.
So, I’ll let you guys in on a secret. I AM planning a proposal, and I’ve already got the ring! Isn’t it gorgeous? The claddagh is very symbolic, and can be worn as both an engagement and a wedding ring, depending on HOW it’s worn. Since I’ve got celtic ancestry (we know, thanks to my mom’s love of genealogy) I thought it would be rather fitting. I’m just glad I was able to find a claddagh suitable for a man to wear.
Now, there’s been a lot of brainstorming going on as to how the hell I’m going to do this, and I can’t seem to find a plan that I like. Or if I have thought of a plan I liked, it was damn near impossible to pull off. I’m trying to find a balance, and I didn’t realize that proposing was such a nerve-wracking thing!
Ladies: if your man hasn’t proposed to you, but has expressed a desire to marry you, just be freaking patient. He’s going through some emotional bullshit right now trying to figure out how to ask. It’s not as easy as it seems.